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The Dating Game

Boy, that title could be problematic if you’re not careful…

As I was saying last Friday, Cathy and I have had some interesting dates in our time.

But.

Kids and work and debt and mortgages and plain old inertia seem to have robbed us of something.  We don’t date anymore.  Oh, we go out to eat sometimes, if we have a coupon, and on rare occasions we see a movie—although we’re usually just pre-screening it for the kids.  But bona-fide romantical type dates?

Not so much.

That, my friends, has got to change.  Remember that verse I keep spouting?

…I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received (Eph. 4:1).

Well, one of my callings is to be a husband, and I need to be a husband worthy of the calling.  I’m not saying that I’m completely inept in the hubby department.   In fact, I’m pretty strong at some aspects of husbanding.

I do dishes.

I launder.

I cook from time to time.

I say nice things.

You may remember that my wife’s love language is gifts. Well, I’ll have you know that I’m even getting a tad better at giving gifties.  (Don’t tell Cathy, but I have a small present for her in our closet right now.)

Dates, though—I need to grow here.  My Cathy deserves it.

I have a two-pronged plan for becoming a dating dynamo.  First, Sunday is going to become Date Day.  Our church has three service times, and while we want the kids to be in with us, we also want them to attend the youth service.  So, here’s the way it works (in theory)—Cathy and I will drop the kids off at the early youth service, and then have 90 entire minutes to go take a walk, grab a bite, remind ourselves who that cute person across the table is.  After, we pick up the kids and attend church as a family.  Woohoo.

Prong Two sounds simpler than it is.  At least once a month I need to take Cathy on an actual date.

Not to Costco.

Not accomplishing anything on the “To Do’ list.

Just being together for the sake of being together.

That may sound pretty minimal, but for us it would be a rhapsody of romance.

Here’s where you come in.  No, I don’t want you to come along on the date—that would be odd.  What I could really use from you, Gentle Reader, is inspiration.  I know there is massive creativity out there—harness it to meet my needs.

What tops your list of creative, inexpensive dates?  Remember, we have kids at home, so we can’t be gone for more than two or three days at a time.  Post a comment below—don’t force me to my backup plan.

Not that Little Caesar’s is bad, mind you…

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More On Dating — 3 Comments

  1. So one of my favs and one of the reasons I knew my husband was more fun than most engineers was the time he took me to see the trains. Now, I’m sure you’re thinking about a train museum or random light rail but no – to see the trains. From a trellis. In Loma Linda. I don’t really know where we were but we went out to this remote location and climbed up the train trellis and sat there until a train cam and passed underneath. At the same time thrilling and terrifying. I’m such a rule follower I was sure that we would be arrested any minute. I also like to be almost caught and nervous about it (LIVE THEATER!). We’ve also been on dates to The Norton Simon Museum in Pasadena and then to a pizza place out there. Beautiful! We’ve gone to Laguna and looked in art galleries. We have been to concerts (rock and classical) – both can be expensive but fun. There was a free organ concert last weekend at the Univ of Redlands Chapel. For our last anniversary in Sept, we were broke so we went to the first place we had dinner as a married couple (Carl’s Jr!!) and then up to Caroline Park with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s to share while watching the sunset. I applaud your intent to date. VERY important in a marriage!!

  2. It’s hard to know when dating on a budget what will seem creative and what may seem second rate. My husband took the time to look up the top hole in the wall restaurants in our area, read all of the reviews, and then asked me on a date. The food was really good and I appreciated his effort. We have the best time when we are just hanging out alone and eating really great food.

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