Painful Togetherness



Mountain - Alaska's Denali

Hiking is a great way to damage those you love.  From time to time I forget this, and I take my family out on “Togetherness” hikes.  You think I would learn.  You see, I have a problem with remembering things like distance and difficulty.  The beautiful thirty-minute stroll that I remember turns out to be a three day slog of despair.

The walk my kids fondly refer to as, “The Killer Death Hike” took place about five years ago, Continue reading


Wedding rings

Yesterday was my nineteenth wedding anniversary.

I had to work.

Go ahead, send the comments…I know it’s lousy.

I spent the day thinking, “At this moment nineteen years ago, I was packing for our honeymoon.  At this moment nineteen years ago, I was getting dressed for the wedding.  At this moment nineteen years ago, my best man was driving me to the ceremony…and here I sit in a meeting.” Continue reading

Welcome to My Mid-Life Crisis

Urbana 2006 motto: Live a Life Worthy of the C...

Mine hit while I was standing at the bathroom sink.  It had not been a good day.  A virus was mocking my immune system.  My part-time “extra” job was giving me fits.  I had just been fired from my primary job–a job that I didn’t even like in the first place.  I was breathless from the walk up the stairs, and I knew I couldn’t blame it on being sick.  Feelings of failure, and weakness, and plain old ineptiosity were creeping in.

Then my wife, beloved of my heart, partner of my life, stood behind me at the sink and uttered the magic words. Continue reading